I am Happy Because I am Single

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By jainismus

Single bird
Single bird


You may take it as a fun or as a serious talk. Yes I am happy because I am single. I am single so I am free to do whatever I want to do and whenever I want to do. As I am a freelance writer and unmarried, in both cases I am my own boss.

I have seen a lot of married couples. Most of them have relationship problems. They like to quarrel. They quarrel for small things. They quarrel without any reason. The quarrels between them usually take serious turns. Anything serious can happen in anger, but they do not care. They carry on their quarrels. As a routine work.

Why the couples like to fight? There is not a single answer to this question. One of the biggest reason for fighting is the possessive mind of 'her'. 'He' always want to get freedom. It is almost not possible in a married life. When she becomes possessive, he do not like it at all. Then she becomes aggressive. He reacts. Thus the intensity of fighting goes increasing.

The worst things happen in this stupidity are the psychological effects on the children of the couple.

If you want freedom, you have to be a single. Real happiness is in freedom. So if you want to be a happy person, you have to be a single.

But remember that it is my perspective. Many people do not see any happiness in freedom. Many enjoy bossing from their wives. The definition of happiness varies person to person. As freedom is the most important thing for me, being single is my necessity. Happiness is just one of its bi-product.

-Mahavir Sanglikar

Comments

lucymcbees 7 months ago

Hi jainismus. Are you really happy? Me not. But I known that men love it. Independence. Hmm, What about free relationships?

Cheers Lucy

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aliciajfarinoli Level 1 Commenter 7 months ago

I hate to be the nagging wife that defends herself to a stranger...but I have to comment on the argument part.

I will admit that most of the time, when my husband and I argue, it is my fault. But ANY type of relationship that has more than one personality involved (also saying more than one person...and yes I am the type of person to argue with myself, but I never claimed sanity.) has an argument at some point in time. It may not be every other day or just on game days. But they do happen.

But being able to argue and then come back from the argument and reasonably fix the problem builds strong relationships. And also teaches the children that fights with forgiveness and understanding are natural and healthy. If you never disagree, then feelings get bottled up until it ruins everything...

OK. Now I will stop. I've bugged you enough.

Glad you are happy though.

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ElSeductor Level 3 Commenter 7 months ago

jainismus,

This is a great hub! More people should be single. Marriage does not work. It is outdated. People should only get married if they plan to have children, and even then, then should only get married if they truly plan to stay together.

Otherwise, stay single!

R

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jainismus Hub Author 7 months ago

Thanks....

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Pamela N Red Level 6 Commenter 4 months ago

Not all married people argue all the time. Some do seem to enjoy debating and I think that is why they remain together but some are dysfunctional and should part ways. I've been happily married for 30 years, people are surprised to see how well we get along and even more surprised to hear how long we've been together.

Infidelity, addiction and incompatibility are the worse problems within a marriage.

As long as you are happy alone that is great but if you ever decide to settle down here are some tips:

http://pamelanred.hubpages.com/hub/How-To-Stay-Hap

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jainismus Hub Author 4 months ago

Pamela, thanks for the suggestions you have given in your article I just read. Actually my article 'I am Happy...' is not for thinking seriously, it is just a humor. I know many couples who live happily, they do not fight, or they fight just to enjoy. So please do not be serious about my article!

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jainismus Hub Author 2 months ago

aliciajfarinoli,

Thank you for reading the Hub and sharing your views.

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Escobana Level 5 Commenter 2 months ago

Interesting views you have on being single. I was single for a long time and loved the freedom I had.

Now that I'm in a serious monogamous relationship, I feel the exact beautiful freedom, apart from being with other people. That is a choice we both made. It's what we believe in.

Freedom to persue the career you have in mind, to live wherever you'd like and to travel alone if you please, all belongs to the freedom of my relationship.

I am sure it can only exist if you have complete and total trust in eachother. This is what we've found, next to the unlimited love we have found for eachother.

I wish for you to find this type of freedom one day, having a loving partner who will support you in every kind of a way, by the love she feels for you.

Good stuff! Voted up and away!

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jainismus Hub Author 5 weeks ago

Escobana,

thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts on this subject.

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